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12 MYTHS AND MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT DOMESTIC ABUSE
Domestic abuse only involves physical violence.
Domestic abuse can take many forms, including emotional, verbal, psychological, financial, and sexual abuse.
If children are not physically harmed, they are not being abused.
Witnessing domestic abuse can be traumatic and emotionally damaging for children, even if they are not directly physically harmed.
Domestic abuse only affects women.
While women are often the primary victims of domestic abuse, men can also be victims. Abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, race, gender or sexual orientation.
Domestic abuse is a private matter and should be kept within the family.
Domestic abuse is a crime and a violation of human rights. It is not a private matter, and it is important to seek help and support for both the victim and the perpetrator.
Victims of domestic abuse can easily leave the relationship.
Many survivors face numerous barriers, including fear for their safety, financial dependence, and emotional ties to the abuser.
Domestic abuse only happens to people who are poor or uneducated.
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of their socioeconomic status, education level, or professional background.
Children are better off if their parents stay together, even if there is abuse.
Research consistently shows that children are generally better off in a stable, safe, and non-violent environment.
Children from abusive homes will naturally become abusers themselves.
Many go on to lead healthy, non-violent lives with proper support and intervention.
Alcohol and drugs cause domestic abuse.
It is not the root cause of domestic abuse. The underlying issues usually involve power, control, and abusive behaviours.
Abusers are always visibly aggressive and violent.
Abusers may not always display overt signs of aggression. They can be manipulative, controlling, and emotionally abusive, making it harder for victims to recognise the abuse.
Children are not affected by witnessing domestic abuse.
Children who witness domestic abuse can experience a wide range of emotional, psychological, and behavioural issues.
Children are too young to remember or be impacted by domestic abuse.
Even very young children, babies and more recent studies suggest that foetus, can be affected by witnessing/hearing violence or conflict in their homes.
Constantly accuses you of being unfaithful or flirting with others.
They justify their jealousy and possessiveness as a way of showing how much they care.
Your partner or family member may continually put you down to make you feel worthless and tell you that you are at fault.
The relationship became intense very quickly, and you felt overwhelmed by big commitments being made in the early stages.
They make most (or all) of your decisions for you or regulate your everyday behaviour.
They dictate what you can wear, who you can see, and what you can do.
The abuser’s mood is hard to predict and changes frequently. One moment they can be attentive to your needs and the next they humiliate and frighten you.
You are repeatedly checked up on, followed or harassed (in person or online). Have you been pressured to install location tracking apps on your phone, and you were encouraged to share passwords and log in details (social media, banking, email, etc).
You feel the need to change your behaviour because you are worried about the repercussions of what they may say or do.
Invalidates your feelings, experiences, or perceptions to make you constantly doubt yourselves.
Belittles, humiliates, or insults you, often in private and public settings.
Downplays or denies their abusive behaviour, minimizing its impact on you.
You (or your family) have been physically assaulted or threatened by them or they have threatened to hurt themselves if you choose to leave.
Attempts to isolate you from friends, family, and support networks. Discourages or prevents you from spending time with loved ones.
Your partners have pressured you to have sex when you do not want to or they have made you do things sexually that you are not comfortable with and you felt you could not tell them no.
They might restrain you or throw objects. They might pinch or shove you and claim it’s a ‘joke’.
SEE THE SIGNS
Recognising warning signs of an abusive partner is crucial for the safety and well-being of individuals in relationships. It's important to remember that abusive behaviour can take many forms, including physical, emotional, verbal, psychological, sexual, and financial. Here are some possible warning signs of an abusive partner:
CONTACT US IF YOU ARE EXPERIENCING ABUSE OR
CALL THE NATIONAL DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE: 0808 2000 247
REACH OUT FOR SUPPORT
If you’re being abused, trust your instincts. Know that it isn’t right, and you don’t have to live this way. You don’t have to go through this alone.
Talk to a trusted friend or family member who will listen without judgment. If that’s not an option, consider joining a support group for people
who have experienced abuse or trauma.
Reach out for support and contact our team. If you aren’t in immediate danger and you need to talk or find someplace to go, call the freephone,
24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline at 0808 2000 247. This 24/7 hotline can put you in touch with service providers and shelters across
England. If you fear immediate physical violence, call 999 or your local emergency services.
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